When working in a team, we are operating either from a self-focused Inward Mindset or an impact-focused Outward Mindset. Operating from an Inward Mindset or ‘being in the BOX’ can look like the following:
Scenario: You’ve been assigned a task. The deadline is approaching. You are struggling. You need support.
Worse-Than BOX: I’m no good. I can’t perform even if I’m trusted to perform. I hope nobody finds out I’m struggling or else, what will they think of me?
Need To Be Seen As BOX: I can’t let people find out I’m struggling or else they won’t trust me. I need to protect myself. I won’t ask for help. I’ll do it on my own.
When deadline has passed and the supervisor gives feedback.
I- Deserve BOX: This supervisor didn’t even sense how much I struggled. He doesn’t know how to support me. I’m deserving of so much respect for the effort i put in despite my challenges. These people don’t appreciate my effort and are only looking for ways to bring me down.
Better Than BOX: Who is this person to give me feedback? They don’t even give necessary support and now want changes to the report! How unfair!
Question for Reflection:
Which of these BOXES can you most resonate with?